Posted on | June 18, 2014 | 3 Comments
Many of us have a difficult time figuring out what we really want from life and what we are good at. A lot of folks are defined by their jobs. They derive their identity from the course they studied at school and their job descriptions. Outside of work, they cannot find their place in the society. Many retirees die shortly after retirement. Driven out of the cave their jobs had become, they find it hard to function in the real world.
One very interesting thing I have found about us as humans is the ability to take a simple thing and make it very complicated. If you want to confound the wise, give them a simple riddle and they will go round in circles. It cannot be so simple. Many times I am looking for something in my house – a document, bunch of keys, my phone, you name it. I will turn the house upside down and sometimes collapse from exhaustion, only to find it where I should have looked in the first place.
Discovering your talent, knowing what you are good at etc should not be rocket since. We have been with ourselves for so long, we cannot but know. The main issue is that we have become so busy being someone else that we have lost sight of who we are. In marriage, people create complex rituals getting to know if he or she is the one. For the simple minded, the moment they meet their future spouse, they just know this is the one.
I stumbled upon the write up below while daydreaming at work many years ago. It helped clarify my thoughts and I believe may be useful to you also. Let down your hair and take a walk on the wild side.
- What if none of your favorite skills and interests are in your current job description?
- What if your favorite things to do and the things in which you have most interest are things you can only do at home?
- Or things you can only do if you had a completely different career?
- Hint! You may be in the wrong job. In the wrong career. In the wrong profession!
- Ask yourself how you got there?
Most of us got out of school and took the job offered. We said we’d stick with it for a few years, get the old college loans paid off and then go do what we were burning to do inside. Well, here it is years later and the burning inside has turned into heartburn, the passion smolders to no avail and we feel stuck. The good news is that this inventory is your first step to getting unstuck.
Interests are the activities that give us true satisfaction and pleasure. We really enjoy doing them. Knowing your general interests makes it easier for you to make good career choices. You can develop your career to include more of your interests and thus increase your career satisfaction and overall productivity.
Here’s a major revelation. It’s OK to love what you do. It’s even a good idea. Not knowing what aspects of your work are really exciting to you may cause you to act impulsively or indifferently when confronted with several options. If you don’t have a clear picture of what you really love to do, then any work may seem OK. It’s only OK to “go with the flow” if the river is flowing in your direction. Otherwise, you’ll never find joy in work. You may never even find the river.
WAYS TO GO:
Take a Walk on the Wild Side
You can identify your interests by imagining a “dream” day at work from the moment you get up (is it AM or PM?) to the moment you to go to sleep. Imagine it in great detail. Oh, by the way, money doesn’t matter. You do not need to worry about making a living or paying off your college loan.
- What city are you in?
- What clothes are you wearing?
- Do you live alone? Who’s with you?
- What time do you leave for work? How do you get there? Is it far?
- Describe your perfect work day. What are you doing?
- Make a long list of your interests…as long as you can. Confess to yourself your secret heart’s desire.
- Ask a respected colleague or friend to review your list and add or subtract from their viewpoint.
- Have a conversation with a friend or colleague about your interests.
Got any clues yet?