The law of giving and receiving is a natural law. Like the law of gravity, it is no respecter of persons. It holds for the young and old, rich and poor, all races and religious persuasions. When you give, you receive. The measure of what you give determines the measure with which you receive. It is simply a matter of time.
In the previous article, we saw that giving is about adding value. That means if you want to receive, you need to add value. Many people start out in business trying to make money, i.e. their focus is on receiving. Many want to make money on the internet. They look at the internet as a gold mine and are trying to figure out how to get their own piece of the action.
When it comes to giving, our minds typically go towards giving money or material things. Giving goes way beyond that. Giving is about adding value, making a difference. Due to this prevailing mindset about giving, most people don’t give as they ought to or should, because they believe they have nothing to give, or have nothing more to give.
When you look a giving from the perspective of adding value, then it becomes apparent that we all have something to give, and our capacity to give is virtually limitless is we keep growing and improving. Consequently, our capacity to increase our income is limitless since giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin. They always go together like lightening and thunder, though there is a time lag between both.
The law of fair exchange is also known as the law of equivalent exchange. This in summary states that:
“People cannot gain anything without sacrificing something. You must present something of equal value in order to gain something. That is the principle of equivalent exchange in alchemy.”
This seems self evident and goes without saying. We all know that “garbage in, garbage out”. However in reality, it is not so simple. We don’t seem to get it. Most folks feel they are not making enough money and life is so unfair. We want higher pay but never stop to figure out how to add more value.
You have just finished your NYSC (or has passed out for a while now) and are combing job sites online armed with your CV. If you get asked what you do, you reply ‘I am a job applicant’. All you do is apply for jobs and wait to get invited for an interview. You cannot move forward from where you are until one if the companies invite you. In effect, they determine your next move, which may include which town you live (depending on where the job is).
I watched with sadness from the sidelines as Nigeria’s number one blog lindaikeji.blogspot.com was yanked off by Google due to copyright infringements. This raised a firestorm as people broke into camps to express their opinions. As a student of human behavior (I stick kick myself for reading Mechanical Engineering instead of Social Psychology), I saw that both sides of the divide has valid points. Often when you have a valid point, you are naturally deaf to any contrary shade of opinion.
Dreams, like ideas are very fragile. In the early days, it can be easily killed, sometimes with a single sentence. While growing up, we are admonished to remove our heads from the clouds and focus on our books, and careers that have a proven record of putting food on the table. Getting a job seems to be the logical thing to do. You have to survive first before you can indulge in the luxury of dreaming. Problem is, in the process of making a living, our dreams fall by the wayside.
Your dream job is essentially your work – what you came to this planet to do, your purpose for being here. Job and work are often used interchangeably, but they do not mean the same thing. Even the dictionary adds to the confusion
Websters dictionary: job – the work that a person does regularly in order to earn money
A job is essentially something you do regularly to earn money (to pay your bills and keep body and soul together).
Having a job is not a necessarily a bad thing. Your job can and should be your stepping stone to where you want to go. That is a stepping stone job – a stepping stone to your dream job, based on your goals or end game. Before seeking a job, it is crucial you need to know where you are going. With the destination in mind, you can seek a job that will takes you closer to where you are going. Consequently, the key reason for taking a job should be what you will learn on the job, the experience you will gain and the seed capital you can set aside.
If you desire yo attain your utmost potential, you need to locate what you love – your ideal career or occupation. Doing what you love energizes you and brings out the best in you. Money or paying your bills should not be an issue since whatever you choose to do, if you find a way to meet an need in your environment, you will surely make money. If you can become rich by making people laugh, then there is no excuse not doing what you love.
There is is only one way of knowing for sure what you will really love doing – by actually doing it. This is where internship and volunteering comes in. It is one thing to assume, think about something, read about something, watch it on TV, ask others opinion about it or even interview those that have already done it etc. That will not confirm whether you will really get to like it or not. You may think you will like something and when you finally get to do, you discover you don’t really like it as you thought you would.